Comments on: Kerala, from a Woman’s Point of View

By: Shafeeque

Shafeeque — Sun, 04 Apr 2010 14:35:32 +0000

Landed up from twitter seeing your kerala male attitude topic trending on my time line. As a malayali aka keralite I completely accept what u have scribbled. Never feel that all the males in Kerala are alike. There are some 4% or 5% males who are unable to control their feelings.

“I now understand the reason for women’s lines in all public places. Really, though, the women’s lines don’t work. While the women are in the line, men are harassing them from the men’s line. This is the same reason there is a woman’s area on all buses”

Thats a fact. Kerala is the only place where we have special seats for ladies in bus and special lines for ladies which never works.

Hope u will have peaceful days ahead.. God bless U…

By: kumaran

kumaran — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 06:46:49 +0000

I do not fully agree , its the mind set of male dominated society and the submission of the women folks.With the vast population of women working, it does’nt matter any more.In life growth all man and woman are same.Women have to be a women when she needs to be and be a man to stand up to truth.I support all woman with thier foot forward.You’re are both Shiva and Shathi.What else do you need just be what you want and move on.

Love kumaran

By: Albin Sebastian

Albin Sebastian — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 03:52:13 +0000

True , But Most of the women are not reporting the cases. You done a Good Job, Keep Blogging.

By: Roshan

Roshan — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 17:13:12 +0000

Apologies for the trouble that you have gone through. It’s a sad & bitter truth about our state and most people turn a blind eye towards it. There is no point in going to a 100 temples, churches & mosques while this kind of stuff happens in our state and we sit back and let it happen. Why only brave girls should face up to these idiotic morons? Us guys too should whack anyone who mistreats any women – Indian or foreigner!

Until things like this is sorted out, God’s own country is just words!

By: Roshan

Roshan — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 17:01:04 +0000

Sadly Melissa, it’s all true. For all the talk of being a forward thinking state, we remain grossly perverted in these matters. I wish I could say things are changing for the better but not really.. Things remain the same even after 2 decades here in Kerala.. I can vouch for that fact

By: J

Sun, 24 Jan 2010 19:32:05 +0000

Hi Melisa, I came across your blog via your Twitter. That was a good entry. I have to agree with everything you said. I am a guy who was born and brought up in Mumbai/India and now living in US of A. As sad as this sounds, I have to say, I would never go back and live in India. Even in progressive cities like Mumbai women are mistreated, there is rampant corruption, poor infrastructure, and so on. India is a society that is living in 2 or even 3 centuries at once. I have to commend your courage and will that you are still in India after all that you have seen and experienced. Your husband is extremely lucky to have a wife like you!

By: Rukmini Pillai

Rukmini Pillai — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 08:41:01 +0000

Stumbled on this blog. You have honestly ripped off the fascade of the ‘empowered women of Kerala’ and exposed the harsh realities a woman has to face in this ‘literate’ state.

As for Kerala having the highest suicide rates, one of the reasons is that all suicides are recorded in Kerala unlike other states in India where suicides are far more, where suicides are not recorded and not recognised.

By: Robin Thomas

Robin Thomas — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 09:17:25 +0000

You see from what I’ve seen in kerala the root cause of all this; contrary to popular beliefs is not the lack of education or the value system or the conservative mentality.

The root cause is the fact that men is kerala have plenty of TIME on their hands during a ‘normal kerala day’ to indulge in all this petty nonsense. Absolute lack of ways to spend time productively is the reason for this. Thats y they spend life… a comment here, a finger there etc etc.

Theres one consolation though. Genetically we ‘mal males’ are a scared lot. Hence you’ll see 1 rape case : 999999999 cases of eve teasing, fingering in buses and theatres.

One stern look from the woman and a stern “F@** Off” loudly and you’ll see “great balls of steel” vaporizing in the quintessential malayalee MAN

By: arun

arun — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 19:30:39 +0000

Hi melissa.
I like ur blog.

By: Siddhu

Siddhu — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 18:18:53 +0000

Stumbled upon your page through Twitter.

As a Malayali, I can only apologise. But I know exactly what you feel, as my foreign wife felt similarly uncomfortable in Kerala (and lots of other parts of India) when we went a-visiting.

Re. Kerala’s sex starved society, this interview with Paul Zacharia jsut about sums it up: http://news.rediff.com/interview/2010/jan/20/there-is-a-lot-of-sex-starvation-in-kerala.htm